On Friday I embraced my 24th year of life and aside from drinking lots of prosecco, prancing around in my Calvin Kleins and shovelling cake in to my mouth, I also reflected on what I’ve learnt about life this far.
1. It’s okay not to have it together all of the time. Don’t get me wrong, I love having everything organised but for the days when life isn’t picture perfect, the last thing I want is to feel guilty about it. Some days I have my sh*t together and some I don’t and I’m okay with that.
2. Hustle with your heart..but not always. Taking time to pause and reflect is just as powerful as being busy. Give your mental health the same care and respect as your physical health.
3. Prioritize experiences. Memories from great experiences far outweigh material things. Save and plan for new adventures and meaningful experiences. Don’t just dream about them – make them happen.
4. Find happiness in everyday life. Life isn’t just for big extravagant gestures. Don’t wait to enjoy and love simple everyday things too. Live in the moment.
5. Give AND take. Taking it just as important as giving. Don’t be afraid to ‘take’ or ask for help.
6. Don’t be afraid to let go. This has been a huge lesson for me. Recently I have felt like having friends has been more painful then not having them. If it’s not being reciprocated or you feel like it adds negativity to your life, let it go.
7. Actions speak louder than words. Plain and simple.
8. Don’t buy for the sake of buying. Ask yourself two questions when you buy anything; 1, do I need it? 2, do i love it? If you don’t FEEL absolutely amazing, then put it back on the hanger or shelve.
9. Preserve your memories. Keep a journal, print out photos, make an album and take videos. Technology and even our own memory is temporary.
10. Throw the ‘timeline’ out of the window. Have goals and dreams but don’t feel like you have to hit a certain milestone or achievement by a particular age. Life will take you on your own journey.
11. Change your bedding once a week. It might seem like a bit of a ball ache, but you will thank yourself when you climb into bed with fresh, clean bedding.
12. Comparing is the devil. That pretty girl on Instragram or the mum at the school gates that has it all together. We have all done it, but it doesn’t do you any favours. Be a rebel, take chances and create your own path.
13. Financial freedom is necessity. I’ve learned it’s okay to splurge on something you really want as a treat, but learning how to be an adult actually means figuring out retirement. Have some savings, even if it’s a small amount each month. You never know when you’ll need to fall back on it.
14. Your parents were usually right. Yepp, I said it. Growing older you gain a hell lot of perspective and you realise that a good 85% of what your parents said and did was totally right.
15. It’s okay to decline plans. Saying no to plans because you want to sit in your pyjamas alone eating ice cream watching a chick flick is totally acceptable.
16. But saying yes is equally acceptable. I guarantee that once you have dolled yourself up and are out of the door, you won’t regret saying yes either.
17. Know your worth. While I hope most people out there boost others up, I know from experience there are others there waiting to tear to you down. Know your worth and stand up for it. No one will have your back if you don’t believe in yourself first.
18. Happiness cannot be brought. Happiness is a choice, no one is going to make you happy, you have to do that on your own. Happiness is purely contentment with life, the normal everyday life.
19. No one is a worse critic of you then you. Don’t obsess over what you don’t have or what you can’t do. Everyone and I mean everyone has their Achilles heel or their own Kryptonite that steals their strength and makes them vulnerable. While it’s tempting to dwell on your shortfalls, focus on strength and celebrate them. It’s much more effective.
20. Don’t get too comfortable. Continuously push yourself to grow, to learn, to try new hobbies. Be dynamic. Being too comfortable leaves you no room to grow and to be a better you. Do things that scare you and get out there. Stepping out of your comfort zone is a good thing.
21. There’s no rush. Don’t rush despite the pressures put on us so early on in life. Some people know instantly where we want to be and what we want to become and they work tirelessly to make that happen. But, there are also a lot of us who don’t know, and won’t know for some time and that’s OK too. Everyone is riding the wave at their own pace and there is no reason to freak out.It will come to you when you least expect it, but don’t miss the signs.
22. Pick your battles. Some things are just not worth it. So think before you speak or act irrationally, and let things go.
23. Trust your gut. Your gut knows what you want, what you feel, what you think… more than you do. So make things less complicated by just listening to yourself in the first place.
24. Travel. Nothing is quite as good for the soul as travelling so with that in mind, travel far and wide. Experience as much of the world as humanly possible.